Steps on How to Save Your Marriage When You Feel Hopeless

It can be frustrating and frightening to think your marriage is over. However, it may not be necessary to give up on your spouse and your relationship. In nearly all marriages, problems can lead to feelings of hopelessness. If you want to save your marriage, it is possible to do so. Regardless of how hopeless you feel, you can restore and rebuild your relationship.

Let’s look at Steps on How to Save Your Marriage When You Feel Hopeless. Don’t despair!  Even if just one of you wants to save your marriage, hope can be revived, and love can be rekindled.

Saving Your Marriage: Look at The Facts

While most troubled marriages can be saved, it is not always the best option. Before you take steps to protect your union, consider an important point. Successfully restoring a marriage requires commitment from both spouses.

Perhaps you can convince your partner that your relationship is worth the effort. If your partner is determined to leave, though, pressing the issue can result in disappointment and heartache. You need to know where your spouse stands before you act.

1. Start with a list

In some marriages, couples file for divorce without knowing the reasons the marriage is troubled. In some cases, issues that cause extreme pain or anger to one person may not bother the other.  The first step is to write a list. List all the problems you are experiencing and ask your spouse to do the same.

When you compare lists, it can be quite revealing. There will be minor annoyances that can quickly be resolved, issues that are difficult to understand, and deal-breakers. Even deal-breakers do not necessarily mean the marriage is over. If both partners cooperate, communicate, and are willing to make changes, a marriage that seems hopeless can be saved.

 2. Stop negative patterns

Negative patterns are not limited to troubled marriages. They can occur in healthy, and happy marriages also.  When your marriage is on the rocks, though, destructive patterns must be addressed.

Some patterns can make it challenging to have a happy relationship. Common examples include: refusing to discuss differences, sarcasm, verbal abuse, blaming the other person, and bringing up past mistakes that are no longer relevant.

You can end these patterns with excellent communication skills and mutual respect. You and your spouse can learn to talk openly with each other and listen to what the other person has to say.

 3. Renew your commitment

Regardless of how long you have been married, your wedding day was a meaningful occasion. It was more than a beautiful day that you shared with family members and friends. Your marriage began with a commitment to share your lives.

Take some time to think of how you arrived at that day. Whether it was the result of a whirlwind courtship or whether you had been together for many years, you and your partner loved each other, enjoyed each other’s company, and looked forward to the future.

You can renew your commitment by remembering and recreating the earlier stages in your relationship. One reason marriages fail is because couples stop seeing their relationship as a priority. With jobs, children, friends, and outside activities, less time is devoted to the relationship.


Source: Mediation and Counseling Blog

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