Dear Dana and Don,
“It has been about six months since we finalized our paperwork and now want to let you both know how at peace I am and how I have been able to move on in my life. The way you were able to care about our future meant a lot. Our children are doing really well and have adjusted, thank you again for the time you spent with us…” -I.K.
Dear Dana and Don,
‘……your professionalism gave us the confidence to think clearly about our finances and what we needed to do for our future. It was so important to has to know we had a team that we could trust. You work with these situations all day long but this was our first and hopefully only time to go through a divorce and we wanted to make sure we did it right. Thanks so much for your guidance and expertise.”
Hey Dana and Don
“Just a quick not to let you know we are doing really well. I appreciate the fact that you offered post-divorce counseling and happy to report I am dating again and really happy in my life. I never thought I could find the joy I feel and the peace of mind I now have. My kids see their dad on a regular basis, and it seems we are healed and going to be alright after all.” Blessings to you both
Dear Dana and Don
“…….Not sure if you remember us, but we were the crazy ones. Now, that time has passed Tom and I are actually friends. He comes over to help the kids with homework and I get a chance to go out and take care of what I have to do, and he never complains. It’s better now, then it was when we were married! How does that happen? Anyway thanks for all of your patience and hard work, I’ll be in touch. Warmly
Dana and Don
We are so grateful we used the two of you instead of lawyers and court. The money you saved us plus you helped us with the most fair agreement, we can live with, and not hate each other. The money you saved us is now in our bank accounts and not the lawyers.” You saved us in so many ways. Forever grateful.
Dear Don and Dana,
‘……my children are doing so much better than I originally thought when we started the process. I was so worried, byt because of the coaching you both gave us, and the settlement that stabilized our finances, no one is hurting or suffering. This is why I was so afraid to divorce in the first place, but actually, all is going really good. Hard to believe I thought otherwise. I will definitely educate people about the benefits of mediation. I can’t believe I didn’t know and by the grace of god we found you in the midst of a crisis. No more crisis and the seas are calm again. Thank you, thank you
Dear Dana and Don
You asked to get back in touch with you to let you know how things are going. Well, happy to report everything is settled down, I see my kids just as we agreed and we have fun, no fighting, no stress. My ex-seems to be happy and now we can talk like humans again. I’ll be in touch again, maybe when I meet someone. Working on it.” Best regards.
Dear Dana and Don,
“…….the best thing about the two of you is that you represent both men and women, that is so helpful, I know my ex-husband and he wouldn’t have gone for just a woman mediator, probably thinking she would be on my side, haha. That’s the way he is. But the idea of having the both of you kept him from using that as an excuse. You two were terrific and so great to work with. You were flexible in the scheduling which helped a great deal, and able to see us as a living breathing family where others seemed so stuffy. You both are great! Thanks again.
‘….. I especially love the way you treated us like a family even though we were going through a divorce, because now we actually still are somewhat of a family, a readjusted one. My children are not dealing with any of the nonsense they see their friends go through with their parents and lawyers and court. You kept us out of court and helped us get to be kind people again.”letters
Trying to find a balance between the needs of yourself, your children, and your soon-to-be ex-spouse was the most difficult thing I’ve ever been through. It is emotionally draining and was (in my case) months of fear, panic, anger, and depression.
As a father of three, I couldn’t imagine a single day where I couldn’t spend time with my kids. But the reality was that I would have to learn to live with it. Their mother and I were to have shared custody and that meant that I would only see them 50% of the time. I didn’t want our family to be torn apart. I had forgiven her affairs and addictions to drugs and alcohol, but she thought her life would be better on her own. We divorced, and I began the process of trying to learn how to be a single dad and provide my kids with as much of a normal life as possible.
I count myself to be very fortunate to have had the assistance of Dana and Don at Mediation and Family counseling. While the divorce has been final for a while, I use them as a resource for issues dealing with my children and their mother. Unfortunately, her substance abuse problems have not gotten better, and she continues to try to poison the relationship between my me and my children. Don and Dana’s experiences in dealing with all types of family situations have given them the wisdom and background to help me with sound advice and practical methods to talk to my kids and avoid getting dragged down into the negative and vindictive world of my ex-wife.
Not only would I recommend Dana and Don for anyone else needing mediation or counseling, I continue to use them to this day. They have been a lifeline for me when I thought that there was no hope. They know family law and work towards reducing conflict and alienation – especially when kids are involved. They have helped me make the best of a bad situation and helped me to understand the needs and feelings of my children and ex-wife. Their expert advice and experience, along with their practical methods for dealing with conflict, have given me and my kids a healthier and more stable life together.
As a divorced mother of two sons, I can present myself as a true believer in the approach taken by Dana and Don. Mediation is a sane approach to an unforgiving legal system. There is a pattern and cycle embedded in the legal protocol when interacting with lawyers. It is a self-perpetuating cycle of promise, denial, generousity and withholding. It is as if the law provokes opposing lawyers to fight it out as dirty as possible in the misguided hope that by shaking the foundation, the “truth” settles with heaviest thud. The sound of heartbreak is wet and solid. And nearly irreversible.
With Dana and Don, dissolution does not have to result in carnage. There are no opposing legal reprsentatives present. The absence of overt aggression and heartbreaking self-defense clears the room for communication. This is where they excel as a team. Communication is so difficult because of the nuances attached to silence. Dana will not allow a withdrawal from accountability in a dispute. She will not encourange the passive/aggressive attitudes that come with unspoken feelings of entitlement. The marriage was a partnership and when it ends, so does the fantasy. Dana and Don understand that love did inspire the marriage in the first place, and that disappointment and disilusionment breathe heavy on the flames of despair. Both Dana and Don will emper the tension so that there is no volatility.
What I appreciate about them is their love of the concept of family. An intact family is a concept, a hope, an image. For some, it was a mirage. Dana truly understands that grieving is necessary. She accomodates those who grieve, but she is a realist as well. And if you have children, THAT IS THE REALITY she wants to have flourish: The children will remain protected from vitriol and hositility. I’m telling you, Neither Dana nor Don will tolerate dishonesty toward the children. No one will be allowed to use the children as pawns, stabbing the other parent in the heart just to take pleasure in the pain. Dana understands the component of revenge in a divorce and she will excise it the second she senses it in the thougts of adults. Dana is sensitive and a good reader of men and women. In her presence, you will be inclined toward truth because you can trust her. The most elusive component of a divorce is that deep trust. When confidence is given to a professional, the result is professionalism. No games, no tactice, no hiddent agendas. The end result will be a compassionate step-by-step resolution so that both parties have been heard.
If only we could communicate this well while married, mediators and lawyers would not be necessary.
Once you are under the guidance of Dana and Don, you might have a better relationship with your ex. I hope so.
I used don and Dana. As good an experience as can be in a dovorce. Compassionate and reasonable. Two thumbs up. !